Andrew Carnegie – American iron and steel king once said, “The knowledge of experts only accounts for 15% of their success, the remaining 85% depends on social relations.” The thing is getting more and more authentic in the flat world, when the main content of many skills courses for students, students, and entrepreneurs … all mention the skills to build relationships. Whatever kind of social relationship: colleagues, friends, inside and outside the business … all have a great impact on the lives of each of us.
The key to a successful relationship
Thus, we will ask the question, which is the key to building a successful relationship. Simply, the key lies in the trust of the enemy to us. This is easy, but actually requires a lot of effort in each individual. Because every human being often acts according to his instincts, it is to act for things that are useful for himself first. But if you show your interest in those around you, as well as your commitment to bring common development benefits to both you and them, then what we receive will be fruitful. sweet.
A “secret weapon” that Japanese people have been very successful in using to conquer the hearts of the most demanding customers, is knowing how to smile. Smiling in communication creates positive effects that are very unexpected, creating the difference of individual personality, team, even business. The openness on the face of the opposite person always creates a pleasant and friendly feeling, it is a very good start for a new relationship.
Next, find out what difference your opponent has? The writer asserts that each individual has a certain personality, a hobby, a “sensitive point”, that we can rely on to make connections with them. Regardless of what job they are doing, when you start building relationships with them, you should respect that difference, then the opponent will be more accepting of you. However, this ability to recognize also depends on the observation, feeling, and sincerity level when building your relationship.
Above all, if you understand their views, their wishes, their concerns in the context in which they live and work, you will get the key to a solid relationship, forever.
Barriers to the process of building relationships
To build a successful relationship, it certainly takes a lot of time, and there are many limitations and barriers. Some of the most typical cases may be reminded when building a relationship with a person, when the person is too self-deprecating, or too proud, or too conservative. Each of these “transcendent” types of people has set up themselves in front of them a barrier wall, so that we either cannot approach them, or have an aversion right from the beginning, or never feel I am respected in relation to them. Therefore, you should consider, am I currently one of these 3 typical people?
Next, credit loss is also a factor that breaks down many good relationships, which you have struggled to build through the long process. Loss of faith stems from various small actions. For example, like a person in a company, if he frequently goes late, often reports late … without a good reason, he will not receive sympathy from his colleagues when he has a good reason. From here, colleagues can ask the question, whether his loss of time has led to any other way of losing faith in life (for example, lying?). He will never win the highest “number of votes” when there is an important, necessary task that the company needs to complete.
Another thing is equally important, communication skills. It’s like our scent in the crowd! That skill can be a handshake, a spoon fork (for a reception), how to use the correct sentence – broken, how to dress properly in a situation .. v .. v. Each of these small details, more or less, reflects your original self, and plays a decisive role in whether others want to start a new relationship with you, or continue it. with peace of mind, pride.
Roadmap to building a successful relationship
So, how is the roadmap appropriate to build and maintain good relationships, individuals as well as society?
- First, you need to determine that we cannot grow when we are alone, but in a connection with a group of people. Successful relationships determine your success.
- Ask questions: You need to know who you are. Need to understand who you are, how you will behave with people around you. What makes you happy? Who are the people you want to contact, build relationships, who will be the characteristics? How can you help others in different relationships?
- All of these are things that you can choose yourself, and take responsibility for that choice. If you make a mistake from this step, you may take a long time to rebalance the quantity, as well as the quality of the later relationships. That’s when you find yourself starting to complain: why do I have to go to such a meaningless appointment?
- Spend time with each other. All relationships need time to nurture, which is not self-sustaining time, but you need to take the initiative to foster that relationship. For example, a greeting card, a discount voucher of a cosmetics business that gives you on your birthday makes you feel happy, satisfied, the same reaction will happen if you can Do so to a colleague, an old friend … Everyone who wants to be recognized is important, always remember this.