Do not think only of the talented detectives like Sherlock Holmes needed new skills but they themselves will not observe. By observation skills have greatly affected the ability of your communication. Without observation skills also mean that your communication skills can not be completed, reducing the chances of success in life.
1, observation skills in communication
skills enable us to observe the mind and recognize the enemy’s feelings through facial expressions and gestures, their actions. By comprehending the emotional feelings that we know they’re happy or sad, angry or not there is, then know how to behave appropriately. When they are sad, we find ways to make them happy. When they are angry, I know I should not say any more. When they are happy, I know I should continue the story they want to hear …
Thanks to the insight through observation skills, we get the trust and love of the enemy, as well as a prerequisite for a successful communication.
But not everyone knows to observe and understand how. But once called “skills”, then that is not the skill that you absolutely can learn, just you diligent, hardworking and methodical exercise properly.
2, observation skills Train
To practice observation skills, you first have to practice to get three possibilities:
the ability to recognize the
ability to focus
Ability to patiently help you observe actions and gestures enemy most accurately. If you hurry you will not be realized because of human emotions is not tangible, it is invisible and only when really patient and use your heart can feel.
Similarly patience, the ability to concentrate is also very important for observation skills. You may not realize anything if we just look to go somewhere else, does not focus on people facing him. Many people think that the focus is easy but in fact is not everyone can do. Because you not only focus their eyes, but also to put his all into the new enemy can understand them.
Understanding emotions is that you need knowledge of human emotions – this is the most important key. Because if you observe gestures of their opponents, but do not know they are representing joy, happiness, anger or sadness, it is impossible to reach an understanding.
3, 4 exercises observation skills
As mentioned, the main observation skills is to observe the expression of their opponents. However, not all expression is worth attention, you need to practice to observe the expression clearly expressed the mood of the people least through 4 homework skills following observations:
First breathing enemy, this is very noticeable by humans is difficult to control my breathing.
When someone’s breath increased, meaning that they are feeling stressed and anxious about the subject you said.
Steam can also indicate severe health problems they are having. Or perhaps they are someone attractive, and in the case of only 2 people then surely it’s you.
You should also observe the eye. Because the eyes are windows to the soul, so this is the most visible manifestation so you recognize the emotions of opponents:
Eyebrows raised close together, eyelids are open to show fear.
Closed eyelid and brow furrowed as they’re angry.
When furrowed eyebrows, upper eyelids relaxed, less shrink mi means they are intending despises you, ….
And a lot of other emotions you may recognize from the eyes. You need to cultivate more knowledge about this issue to develop their observation skills.
expression is also the expression of human emotions. Where is the happy face, angry face, happiness, disappointment, pain, … we can easily recognize. Therefore also observe facial expression is one you should not ignore.
Observing body movements
body movements – or fingers that can also be very important expression seems to be part of their opponents emotions. When the language of the body, you can understand that people can lie often pretend just for a short time, because appearance will accidentally “denounce” what they conceal.
To observe, you need to know how to read body language. For example:
When people sit chin, meaning they’re bored with what you say.
when they crossed his arms together to prove they still tend closed, do not want to share with you
When a hand made nape, meaning they are annoyed or deceive you something, …
Also the action suddenly, suddenly the enemy also partly reflect their emotional feelings. For example:
They’re listening to you say, then suddenly looked at the clock, you know they are something to do and could not continue the conversation.
Or when you mention the problems that opponents sitting sudden change, maybe they feel more excited, would be a more boring.